Teenage daughters with different mothers fight during family therapy, causing father to become upset with the oldest when she says she’ll never be close with her half sister

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    AITA for saying I won't ever be close to my half sister and I wish I could have stayed with my grandparents?
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    My dad, stepmother, half sister (13) and I (16) are in family therapy. My dad was concerned about mine and my half sister's strained relationship and my distant relationship with his wife and he wanted us to finally come together as a family.
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    My parents broke up when mom was pregnant with me and divorced after I was born. Dad moved states for a job which was part of what broke them up. So he didn't see me a lot. He had to fly back and forth to see me until I was 2 and then I would fly out to him. He married my stepmother when I was 2. My half sister was
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    born when I was 3. Even when we were little there wasn't a whole lot of closeness and I'd miss my mom and want to go home more than I wanted to be with them.
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    My mom and I lived with my grandparents. So I had the three of them at home and it was amazing. I was always way closer to them.
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    My mom did when I was 9 and my grandparents asked dad if I could stay with them. I wanted to and I did say it then but he said I belonged with my family. It was really upsetting and stuff and things were always so awkward. I didn't want to be with them, but my dad really wanted me there and my relationship was never
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    too great with any of them. With dad it was only a little better.
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    My half sister started complaining about me a lot around a year ago. Saying I hogged our shared family and that I didn't treat her mom like I should. She said I was a mean girl to her mom because | didn't remind people of her mom when I was told I look like my mom, which I do look like my mom. And I do get comments on
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    that from my mom's side and my dad's side. I'd ignore her and she'd complain about that and say I didn't care what she thought of me and I didn't care about her mom and how wrong that is because her mom's the best and she's my mom now too. Dad eventually was like okay, we need therapy together and we started three months ago.
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    We were all given the chance to speak about what we felt was wrong, what was bothering us and stuff. My half sister repeated all her complaints about me but she goes on and on about it and how annoyed she is that I don't tell people about her mom when they say I look like mine. She also went on and on about how she
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    feels like our shared family favor me and stuff. She ignored when asked if they see her more, because she knows they have. Not even just before but I do go to spend time with my maternal family and when I do I'm not around to see them. And I went years sometimes without seeing dad's side.
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    My stepmother didn't say much. My dad went over how he wants us to be closer and how it bothers him that my half sister and I aren't close at all. And how it's like we just met and things are strained in that way. He said we always knew each other and I've lived with them for so many years now.
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    I talked about how I didn't care how my half sister felt about me or saw me and how I don't need to talk about her mom when people say I look like my mom. I was asked about losing mom and then moving. I was told I should be honest. This was in a recent session and I said I wish I had been allowed to stay with my
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    grandparents. That I missed them and wished I could live with them. How they were my home and my family even with mom gone. And I said my half sister and I won't ever be close. We never were before and I don't think we'll see much of each other when I can decide to leave. I said we're just
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    very different and there will always be a lack of bond, at least on my part.
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    My dad was really upset about the stuff I said and he talked to me afterward and asked me why I'd say the stuff about my grandparents like that. He said he's my family and so are his family. He also told me he couldn't believe there was no bond with my half sister at all. My
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    half sister was really angry at me for saying the things I did. She told me I should care way more about this stuff. AITA?
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    BulbasaurR... Not the a hle at all Your father's happy family fantasy isn't reality and he can't deal with it. That's on him. He can't force a relationship with your half sister.
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    You were right to be honest that you wished you lived with your grandparents. You've done nothing wrong.
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    Your half sisters opinion doesn't matter. Really, it's of zero value to you. Her feelings are her own to deal with, and it's not your responsibility to placate her. ΝΤΑ
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    Ok Structure46... The problem here is that your father took you to therapy not with the intention of repairing a relationship, but believing that he needed to "fix" you. If your father doesn't understand that, then
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    therapy and any healthy relationship will not succeed. Therapy is meant to help and support each other, not to "fix" you. NTA.

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